I need to add something here: (other) people need to take their internet bullshit elsewhere. No matter what you think about the situation, no matter how close or distant you are, this is not the place or time to act like internet retards. Be good people, occupy yourselves in making the world a better place. kthxbye.
It's very easy for people to look at something that didn't work and label it a failure, and assume that the people involved are failures as well. As if your effort can be quantified like a math problem or something. But that's not true of either of you. I think that's something for both of you to try to keep in mind - you can't blame yourself, and ultimately blaming the other person is just as unrewarding, and can be just as self-destructive even if it doesn't seem like it. Nobody failed. It just didn't work. I think that's a hard concept to grasp for our society as a whole.
But you're certainly allowed to be sad and upset and lots of other things too. Don't rush those things. They make the scabs that turn into scars that you'll always remember, but they won't hurt as much.
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I need to add something here: (other) people need to take their internet bullshit elsewhere. No matter what you think about the situation, no matter how close or distant you are, this is not the place or time to act like internet retards. Be good people, occupy yourselves in making the world a better place. kthxbye.
It's very easy for people to look at something that didn't work and label it a failure, and assume that the people involved are failures as well. As if your effort can be quantified like a math problem or something. But that's not true of either of you. I think that's something for both of you to try to keep in mind - you can't blame yourself, and ultimately blaming the other person is just as unrewarding, and can be just as self-destructive even if it doesn't seem like it. Nobody failed. It just didn't work. I think that's a hard concept to grasp for our society as a whole.
But you're certainly allowed to be sad and upset and lots of other things too. Don't rush those things. They make the scabs that turn into scars that you'll always remember, but they won't hurt as much.
So anyway, enough pseudo-Zen from me.
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